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The most magnetic thing you can do is to let yourself be fully loved—exactly as you are.

True connection appears where the mask ends.

Being in a constant state of rebranding is exhausting.

Life just isn’t that serious

This is truly everything. 🌌

Finally accepting that gap between my teeth🤍

Took a long time but here I am🦩

"the world didn't end when-" ACTUALLY IT DID

Maybe the only lesson life has for us is love for what we were, for what we are, and for what waits, even as we slip into whatever comes after.

I weep in rememberance of the ache that once existed. Not before. I wait for it to die, then I cry for the sapling that grows on its burial floor. This doesn't save me from pain, it just spares no mercy. So I lament for what is and once was.

-reign

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Why is accepting yourself so hard?

Hewwo! Did you know that today is autism awareness day? Could we have some headcanons for a autistic darling with Phantasmo??? Pretty please?🥺

Ohohoho~! I’m not only going to give you some headcanons of an autistic reader with Phantasmo: i am also going to give you some autistic Phantasmo headcanons!

Why? Because i headcanon Phantasmo as an autistic person (or ghost in his case) or at least autistic-coded:

Some (undiagnosed) autistic Phantasmo headcanons with an autistic darling:

Phantasmo may think you’re a little “exotic” at first but impressively he quickly becomes way more attached to you than he would with others that are neurotypical (i think that’s how you call people who are not in the autistic spectrum…? I dunno, please correct me if I’m wrong!)

He just thinks you are really something else and kind of funny in a way? Like: you amuse him with, well, being yourself! (But with more flavor and being blunt way too transparent!)

He sometimes see himself in you and he can’t quite explain why… T-oby then suggests that his dad should take a test (and be diagnosed) to see if he wasn’t also autistic… needless to say: Phantasmo finds the idea way too ridiculous, i mean, he? Being AUTISTIC? No… he possibly can’t be! (Context: Phantasmo comes from a century where being autistic wasn’t seen as a good thing nor a “normal” one… people from Phantasmo’s time would ridicule openly people with any disability and even harass or do worse with them… that’s why Phantasmo/Victor doesn’t want to believe a person/ghost like him would be considered… “”defective”” (i am using a word here of what i used to hear on my childhood… before i was even diagnosed with autism… but was also considered “”defective”” by others… that was mid 2006 and 2010… and sometimes even still this day…)) he’s too perfect to be autistic! He’s way too prettier too! He can’t-

Then you heard him saying out loud all those terrible things about how he couldn’t be autistic… you started getting angry but even more disappointed and… heartbroken about how autistic people aren’t pretty nor smart according to his own words… you then started running out of his house and both him and T-oby tried to reach you but you were gone…

The worst part is that he kind of realized how stupid those stereotypes and hurtful ideas were about people like you: you are pretty, has a lot of wit, you’re… you are definitely not anything what people from his time used to say about autistic people!

He knew he had to apologize to you… he then saw under his feet a card that you have made for him and a present. The card said: “dear Phantasmo, i… started developing some feelings for you… i… i really, really, REALLY like you so much… and if you were also autistic, just know you WILL have my support and love! I won’t stop loving you any less, if anything, I would love you even MORE because it would be another common thing we have! ;) sorry if this letter seems a little too short and straightforward… but i think that’s all i can manage to write… words cannot describe how much i adore you~! Xoxo Y/N”

Needless to say… Phantasmo was in tears… he couldn’t believe how… he was so adamant about being also autistic… he felt like an idiot… T-oby seeing his dad so sad, had an idea: Phantasmo would give the test results to Y/N and would apologize by also gifting them something too!

Phantasmo agreed to the idea and peaked inside the present you gave him: it was a pink shirt with the autistic creature with a print saying: “hmm… i may be different: deal with it :3”

Phantasmo let out a small chuckle and put on the shirt (after he took off his sweater and lab coat… it was a bit tight against his chest but it was alright… nothing too uncomfortable)

After some hours, Phantasmo and T-oby knocked on your house’s door and you opened it… only for you to angrily shut it almost on their faces, which T-oby managed to place his feet in between and let out a pained “mmh!”

After some convincing, you let them enter your home…

Phantasmo then gave you the test results of his mental state and… he was indeed autistic! He also handed you a plushie of the autistic creature with a tiny bow on its “neck”…

All the anger that was inside of you vanished completely and… you hugged him tightly before kissing him and asking if he… well, wasn’t upset that he was autistic…

He (after some seconds recovering from your kiss, he could feel some steam coming out of his mouth and “ears”) said that at first it was hard to swallow this pill… but then he was happy because he realized that the stereotypes and hurtful ideas he had about autistic people weren’t true at all… you smiled with tears in your eyes and kissed him again~

T-oby watching everything unfolding smoothly and giving you two a thumbs up with a big smile on his face~

Now for some quick autistic (diagnosed) Phantasmo headcanons! Yippeeeee!

Phantasmo definitely stims when he’s excited about something! (He mostly stims using his ghost tail)

He lightly chews his fingers when he’s angry or nervous about something!

His tick is twirling his ghost tail between his fingers unconsciously!

He’s always torn between being a touch starved or being touch repulsed!

His hyper fixations are: horror movies and books; anything scientific related and classical music!

As you may all have noticed… this was supposed to be released on the autism awareness month… (yeah, yeah, i know… i’m way behind schedule… but oh well… *shrugs*)

Also, Phantasmo belongs to @fluffffpillow! (Ps: hey fluff, if you happen to see this… would my silly headcanon be considered a half truth to you? Also… please don’t get angry at me, this is all just some random headcanons that been swirling through my mind for a while now…)

My truth...

Most people ask me if my life is perfect because I am happy all the time, but honestly I'm not. Sometimes life is really hard for me and I don't know if I'll be okay, but I know that if I keep my head up and stay positive that only good things can come from that. Life is never as negative as we think it is, it is just a product of our mindset.

My truth is that yeah sometimes I'm not happy, but that's okay. We don't need to continue to live life as if it's a bad thing to be unhappy sometimes. Sometimes there is not light at the end of the tunnel sometimes there is not greener grass on the other side and sometimes the sun doesn't shine when it rains. Tres humans that's okay because that's how life is. If we can learn to understand that and to accept that then we're already one step closer to the happiness that we're looking for.

So with that in mind I wish nothing but happiness and positivity for anyone who chooses to follow me. Are people who don't follow me just everyone. Because everyone deserves to find happiness and everyone deserves to know that not being okay is the most okay thing.